Another was told by his supervisor that he could take it, but that he would be put on the “daddy track”. “You will never make partner or anything, but you can definitely do it,” he was told.
One lawyer in a large Manhattan firm had to face his senior managing partner, who said: “Now you listen here”, leaning forward and stabbing his finger into the desk: “I'm 64 years old and I have three grown children and I cannot, sitting here today, tell you their birthdays. You are going to have to make some sacrifices.
Said Kimmel: “That was the moment, this guy told me, he knew he was not long for this firm.”
Kimmel and some other self-described “refugees” left their big firms to set up a “boutique” style operation.
“They are doing quite well, but they all have kids’ pictures on their desks and they all remember their children’s birthdays,” says Kimmel, the author of Guyland- The Perilous World Where Guys Become Men and Angry White Men- American Masculinity At The End Of An Era, books that examine the state of males in today’s world.
Kimmel says these men wanted to be there and take care of their children.
“And every single one of them lacked the main ingredient they needed to do that. And that is: the support of other men.”
According to research by the OECD in March, Australian fathers have one of the lowest rates of taking parental leave, even though they are offered two weeks of Government-paid leave that can only be taken by fathers and non-primary care partners.